Preface to the Fatherhood Essays

This is the preface to the Fatherhood essays that I am writing.

I have been a grandson, son, father, grandfather and recent great-grandfather, yet the memories of becoming a new father remain fresh in my mind. Severe chronic challenges were encountered,  yet, with God's help I was able to prevail. This collection of essays is about what was learned on that journey from a young man to a great-grand-father. Many things were learned, challenges overcome, mistakes and memories were made; a lot of growing was done by the entire family.

These essays contain the observations, experiences and challenges that were faced by up to 4 generations of fathers. The manner of writing used here may seem a bit severe, perhaps even negative at times. The motive of heart is to communicate the unvarnished truth so that, with God's help, you too can prevail as a father. These writings can serve as kind of a template of several fathers' approach to managing the challenges and issues of fatherhood. I don't think the challenges are unique, but the response to these challenges will be unique. The issues raised in these essays may help you prepare for the unexpected.

In my journey through life, there was almost no training available on how to handle or manage the challenges of life. I had to learn how to manage and how to grow while struggling to keep the family together. These essays do not contain problem solving "recipes". You, your situations, and circumstances are all unique and demand unique responses which ultimately are determined by you.

Sudden, surprising challenges can scramble your life, goals, ambitions, relationships, self-image, and feelings. You can be plunged into an unfamiliar, unpleasant, painful, and confusing world. What is disclosed here are the tools and skills that have been important to be able to navigate such a world and to endure the challenges that were encountered.

You may find these essays a bit "preachy" and be overwhelmed by all the advice that is presented. Be assured that what is presented here is not theory; I lived what is shared here. My initial experience as a father was to make mistake after mistake and almost become a complete failure. It required time to become skillful. These essays expose the reader to decades of learning in a very short amount of time. Give yourself time to absorb what is shared. It is expected that the reader may experience some very strong emotions about this information, just as I did. I was driven to find the truth, so regardless of my emotions, I worked to learn until there was a resolution and I was at peace. This requires time and patience.

Fatherhood is one of the most important jobs you will ever have. As you endure and prevail, your children can learn to endure and prevail as well.

To the Father and Mother

It requires and father and mother to produce a child. A child needs both a father and a mother to raise him or her. This is a biological, genetic requirement, not an artificial social construct based on artificial gender roles. As such, it is a godly human right for each child to have a male father and a female mother to raise that child. It is best that the father and mother fulfill their responsibilities together with unity of purpose. I raised my children with their mother but I am not qualified to write about motherhood.

To society in general

In these essays, I unapologetically use gender specific pronouns which accurately reflect reality. If the reader finds this to be offensive, then my advice is to stop reading. 

 

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DEPLORABLES

An open letter to the "leadership" of the American political left

Recently, the current public figurehead of the political left verbally excoriated a major portion of the American electorate. To some, it is quite astonishing that she would be so abusive to those who have enabled the federal government and its policies. After all, the labor of these productive people is plundered by the government, year after year. It would be rational then, to expect thanks and praise would be heaped upon them! Yet, this is the political season when rationalism and reason take a vacation.

The following has been extracted from a news report:

she claimed that half of Trump’s supporters nationally—millions of people—were a “basket of deplorables” who were “irredeemable” and “racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic, Islamophobic.
"Some of those folks — they are irredeemable, but thankfully they are not America

To one who was raised as a good liberal progressive and has observed the social and political behavior of this country for more than 4 decades, these remarks were not a surprise. The views and emotion expressed have been known by observation for years. I, for one, am gratified to be among those who are held in such esteem by this public figurehead.

Our form of government is a REPUBLIC. It is NOT a democracy. The people delegated some (not all) of THEIR political power to the federal government for specific goals which are limited in scope. The right and ability for the federal government to exist and operate proceeds from the people. IT IS NOT THE GOVERNMENT WHICH CONFERS RIGHTS UPON THE CITIZENS, IT IS THE PEOPLE WHO CONFER RIGHTS UPON THE GOVERNMENT. Thus, the preamble of the constitution begins with "We the people…"

It is said that we are a nation of laws or a nation governed by laws. Most of the time, these statements bring to mind laws which are over the people of the country. It is quite remarkable then to consider that the VERY FIRST laws written are laws which define and LIMIT the scope of operation of the government formed by this constitution. The basic functioning of the government established by the constitution is to "…SECURE THE BLESSINGS OF LIBERTY…" That is all, that is it. Everything else is outside of its scope of operation.

This constitution is what the elected officials and military personnel swear to protect and defend. However, common political practice is to ignore or attack and subvert the constitution. One of the most egregious subversions of this constitution is the effort to eliminate the borders of the United States of America. The border defines the physical area of our constitutional REPUBLIC, that area where LIBERTY dominates. Without a border, the United States and its constitution does not exist. The effort to eliminate our borders is an attack on the homes, families, and persons of the United States. It is a personal attack which all too often becomes a real physical attack with deadly concequences.

Another egregious subversion of this constitution is the armed robbery of the citizens of the United States by the federal government. This armed robbery is used for purposes which are outside of the boundaries defined by the constitution. Thus these purposes are unconstitutional.

The founding fathers of this country and the constitution knew that the GREATEST ENEMY of a people is the GOVERNMENT. The federal government has certainly justified their sentiment! Those who love liberty recognize the existence of some form of government is required in order to secure and maintain liberty. If government strays from this purpose, then it becomes a pernicious tyrant.

This federal government is an armed tyrant who is the enemy of liberty. Those who love liberty dare to actively stand for the constitution and against the abusive tyrant. Those who love the federal government and worship its power desperately hate the children of liberty.

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Live A Godly Marriage

Couple starting their marriage

Couple starting their marriage

What is required in order to live a Godly marriage? Ephesians contains a section on living wisely. Wisdom is knowing what to do, how to behave, how to live. Within this context is a short section on marriage, the responsibilities of the wife and of the husband. It requires godly wisdom in order to fulfill these responsibilities.

The verse just before the section on marriage, Ephesians 5:21, states that all who are committed to God by way of Jesus Christ are to submit to one another out of respect for Christ. Given the context, it refers to people living in godly wisdom submitting to others who are also living in godly wisdom. The word "submit" here is the same word that is used in reference to the wife. This submitting is not to result in slavery, abuse or anything evil. It is not a thoughtless action but is done with great godly wisdom which results in godliness. In short, we work together to exhibit the will and love of God in the physical realm.
 
We will begin with the responsibilities of the husband. The husband is to love his wife in the same manner as Christ loves all the believers, collectively, throughout all time. The husband is to love his wife in the same manner as Christ gave himself up for the believers. Jesus Christ first committed himself to God to do what God wanted. Jesus Christ communicated and illustrated God's love for each one of us, regardless of our response. Jesus Christ does not manipulate, coerce, nag or abuse anyone into doing what He wants. That is the manner of love that a husband is show towards his wife. That is the manner of love that he is committed to have for his wife. He must live with godly wisdom in order to fulfill his responsibilities.
 
The scripture about the responsibilities of a wife states that the wife is to submit to her husband in the same manner in which she submits to Jesus Christ. This does not mean that she is a puppet or a slave of a thoughtless man. Rather, as the couple both understand the will of God in each specific situation, she applies her godly wisdom in coordination with the husband in order to bring to pass the will of God.
 
The husband is to love his wife and the wife is to respect her husband. This love and respect is to continue throughout all stages of their life together. Emotions, good looks, health, and finances may change, but your commitment to God and each other should not change.
 
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Understand the Enemy

In order to eliminate confusion and uncertainty, it is helpful to understand the enemy that is working to destroy liberty. For years the political powers have been laboring to destroy America, but the motive behind this work has been unclear. The featured video explains the motives of one man, but understand that this man is a front, just a puppet for a larger team which is at work behind the curtain.

When secret, hidden evil is revealed, it can provoke emotions in us, such as anger, disappointment, and grief. Although these emotions may be appropriate human responses, they are not to dominate us. Manage the emotiions and get peacful.

Once there is greater clearity regarding the decline of America and liberty, it is appropriate to peacfully pursue a thoughtful, spiritual response. Those who live by the faith of Jesus Christ have a responsibility to endure these challenging times to perform God's will, not our own will. Start by praying for our country, and our local communities; seek the welfare of your local community. As you walk by the spirit, do whatever God inspires in you.

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The Lust For Power

The PrinceThe lust for power engenders a burning ambition to rule as a king. This despicable, egotistical, cruel ambition consumes good morals, ethics and life itself. Although one who would rule must have a deranged level of immorality and egotism, he must be considered an evil amature when compared with others whose ego and lawlessness knows no bounds.
 
Centuries ago, in Israel, leaders of the twelve tribes met and decided that the country required the rulership of a king (1). In the first century a large group of people who had met with Jesus decided to force him to be king (2).
 
Who are these people, with boundless egos, who decide to make a king? Not satisfied with the lust to rule as a king, they are inflamed with burning ambition to make and own a king. Imagine the twisted ego, self importance and lust required to even think of become a ruler of rulers!
 
The king makers are the subject of legend and superstition; they mainly live nameless, in the shadows, content to fulfill the role of the puppet master. It is not important to know the identity of the king makers, only to know that they exist and are the true constituents of the public rulers. The individual entities may not be known or seen, but the effects of their influence can be seen.
 
In this republic the electorate is blinded by two major deceptions. The first deception is that political power, "correctly" applied, can solve the national challenges, making life better for the electorate. The second deception is that the electorate functions as the primary "king maker" through national elections.
 
Political power, regardless how it is applied, has very little potential to do "good". It's full potential is realized when it is used for robbery, murder and destruction. It is with this knowledge that the founders understood that the government of this republic must be severely restricted and it's citizens armed to the teeth in perpetuity.
 
Don't become infected with the king maker mentality. Each election cycle comes and goes with its' winners and losers, yet the country continues its' inexorable decline. Too many hopes and dreams are left subject to the vagaries of the political drama that plays out on the public stage. Too much productive energy, emotion, time and money are burned on the altar of political power.
 
Those who aspire to the top public positions of rule should be pitied. They are in the same position as the little child who has been lured into the car of a stranger with candy. In his book "The Prince", Machiavelli writes about those who attain rule from the king makers:
 
"Such as these depend absolutely on the good will and fortune of those who have raised them, both of which are extremely inconstant and unstable. They neither know how to, nor are in a position to maintain their rank, for unless he be a man of great genius it is not likely that one who has always lived in a private position should know how to command, and they are unable to command because they possess no forces which will be friendly and faithful to them."
 
So, it is advisable to resist expending emotional energy about the political puppets who are in the public spotlight. They are but a distraction engineered by the political illusionists. Your life, family, safety, and prosperity continue to remain in your hands.  Continue to watchfully build, maintain and enjoy your life.
 
A wise man once wrote (3):
 
"…if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding, if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures…then you will understand righteousness and justice and equity, every good path; for wisdom will come into your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to you; discretion will watch over you, understanding will guard you, delivering you from the way of evil, from men of perverted speech, who reject the paths of uprightness to walk in the ways of darkness, who rejoice in doing evil and delight in the perverseness of evil, men whose paths are crooked, and who are devious in their ways."
 
(1) 1 Samuel 8
(2) John 6: 1 – 15
(3) Proverbs 2:3 – 15
 
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Quit Trying to be Good

The following is from my book "Godly Abundance and Prosperity"

Mark 10:18
And Jesus said to him, "Why do you call me good? No one is good except God alone.

A man speaking with Jesus called him "good teacher", but Jesus rejected this title. If Jesus himself did not regard himself or any other person as "good", then why is so much effort being spent on attempting to reforming people to make them "good"?

The question is asked over and over, "…why do bad things happen to good people?". The assumption of this question is that if a person is "good" then bad things should not happen to them. Hidden away are other, related questions; "…how good do I have to be before I obtain deliverance or prosperity?", "…what did I do that was so "bad" that I deserved this challenge or crisis?"

Again, the theories of the self-help industry and the corporate religious institutions place the emphasis on the individual as the cause of bad things happening. Briefly, the theory is that you must recognize your badness, correct it, and become good. It is the individual that must be corrected so as to bring about the blessings of deliverance and prosperity. These theories and teachings are very ancient, as will be seen.

The book of Job is a record of a man that many would regard as "very good". Yet very evil things happened to him. Not only that, but he was subjected to the kind of abuses that many in the religious realm will recognize. The book of Job is unique in that it plainly describes the actual causes of Job's calamities, the actual nature (godly or ungodly) of the self-help theories, and what a Godly believer should do in such circumstances.

Job's victories were such a stunning triumph that he remains a subject of derision in the religious realm, even to this day. This account of his life provides a complete and absolute refutation of the doctrines and beliefs promoted by the corporate religious institutions and the self-help industry.

There is much that can be learned by studying Job. The care-giver, friend, acquaintance, and employee of those who are challenged all have something to learn.

Are you a mother, father, husband, wife, employer? Does anyone look up to you, or do you influence anyone? Then you are a leader. Those who are, or who would be leaders should pay special attention to Job. He illustrates and personifies God's view of leadership. It is a warning to leaders of the kind of spiritual pressures that this world reserves for those who function effectively as leaders. It is encouragement to leaders, communicating the care and the love that God has for those who function effectively as leaders.

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Deliverance and Self Condemnation

Throughout the years, I have known of and accompanied many on a search for personal deliverance. We were searching for such things as healing, strength, fame, fortune and love. After great effort, sometimes for years, the only result was self condemnation, poverty and in some cases, death. Most have continued with unresolved needs, but the search for deliverance has left them scarred with the additional specter of nagging self doubt, self condemnation and sin consciousness. In some others, the search has cultivated an enduring bitterness against God.
 
"So much of the self-help industry and corporate religion is dedicated to the individual in crisis. Libraries of books have been written and centuries of sermons have been delivered describing what the individual has done wrong to bring calamity to themselves. Following the criticism is a prescription of actions to take and principles to apply which will appropriate deliverance. A majority of these teachings from the religious realm use the Bible as the source of their theories and prescriptions. The Bible is used to legitimize their theories.
 
From the corporate religious institutions we are taught how to be 'good' or 'righteous' so as to curry divine favor and to avoid divine 'wrath'.
Is this really a proper use of the Bible? Is it a book which defines the correct conduct of the individual which will bring about an abundance of prosperity? Is it a book which shows us the way to avoid the wrath of an angry god? Is it a book which imparts legitimacy to a religious institution, its officers, its policies and procedures?"
 
Self condemnation is one of the most miserable, damaging and hurtful devices which is cultivated in us. The chapter "No Condemnation" addresses this device, showing how it is NOT a godly practice; God does NOT want us to condemn ourselves at all. The chapter also shows how the Bible is misused to promote self condemnation.
 
The great man of God, Job, was subject to the same pressures and devices used in religion today, such as self condemnation. The two chapters on Job illustrate how Job was abused in the same manner as many of us have experienced. It also shows the wonderful results of his endurance which occurred, even before he was delivered.
 
A similar post was written specifically regarding the Quest for Healing:
 
If you have unresolved issues between you and God, if you have experienced abuse in your search for deliverance, or if you just want to help others, then the book "Godly Abundance and Prosperity" was written for you.
 
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The Quest For Healing

The quest for healing can be a heart-rending, all consuming quest. I have been involved in several such quests during my lifetime, for myself, family members and others. There are few such challenges which exposes a persons true beliefs and expectations.

In our culture (especially in religious culture), we have been generally taught to live by recipe. So it is with healing. When illness strikes, the search for a curative recipe begins. Another search is performed which consists of answering the question "…what did I do wrong?" Even the "faithless" among us seek to answer this question. (A recipe is a list of things to do in order to obtain a desired result.)
 
Those that do believe in healing from God generally believe in a Hollywood, stained-glass mythology which has nothing to do with Biblical scripture. This mythology has been promoted and packaged as a commodity. This commodity is marketed to people who are desperately seeking the recipe of healing.   The pulpit and other forums seem to produce an unending supply of recipes for healing. Most of these recipes are accompanied by scripture for validation and a plea for cash. In most cases, the recipe is devoid of any beneficial result.
 
As one in need of healing and having a knowledge of the Bible, I studied every record of healing that I could find in the Bible. One or more of these records refutes every single recipe for healing that I have ever heard. These recipes for healing basically leads to damaging and unholy practices that benefit no one.
What I did learn from all these records of healing is that the main question is not "…how do I get healed?" but rather, "…how do I endure until I am healed?"
 
I eventually was healed. The greatest miraculous healing I ever experienced happened when I was alone, at night, walking down a busy highway. I was delivered from a chronic condition that had challenged me for close to 30 years. Endurance is key. (See the chapters on Job, parts 1 and 2.)
 
If you are challenged with sin consciousness, or you think you are unworthy, not good enough to be healed, I refer you to a record of healing in 1 Kings 13:1 – 6. The man that was healed was a king who was turning his entire country to idolatry. Even after the healing, he did not change his ways. 
God does not inflict people with sickness to teach them or to improve their character. God is good always. (See the chapter "No Condemnation".) Don't wear yourself out requiring a "miraculous" healing that conforms to your every expectation. 
 
Most of the ineffective recipes refer to prayer and "claiming God's promises". (See the chapter "The Promises of God")
 
One of the detrimental effects of the popular recipes for healing is that they increase stress and decrease endurance. I found that as I refused to follow these recipes, I had more energy, less stress and anxiety. This enabled me to improve my endurance.
 
Update: After re-reading this post, the need for some examples became apparent. So, here are some examples of recipes for healing I have heard through the years:

 

  • "Clean up" your life (literally and figuratively)
  • Renew your mind
  • Only speak and think positives
  • Study the bible more
  • Give more money
  • Serve more
  • Pray more
  • Pray for others
  • Visualize your deliverance in detail
  • Figure out what fear cause this to happen and face your fear
  • Find and memorize as many verses as you can that will encourage and "inspire" you
  • Take "this class"
  • Find the "right" person to minister to you
Note that none of these recipes were required for the healing previously mentioned.

 

 

 

 

 
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About ksradcliffe.com

This posting is a guide to the information on my website and some of the thought behind it. You can read about the purpose of the website on the home page, and about me, the author, on my biography page; so I won't be repeating that information here.

 

For those visitors of ksradcliffe.com with a background in organized religion, either denominational or non-denominational, there are teachings to answer some of the most common questions that constantly arise in such environments. These teachings are available as PDF files that can be read or MP3 audio files that can be listened to on computer or MP3 player.

 

For example, the subject of "tithes" and financial giving to corporate religious organizations is a much debated topic. Instead of arguing or wondering about this subject, why not read an extensive study on this topic?

 

When I started to research this topic, my motivation was to reexamine the practice of so many godly people (including myself) who faithfully contributed 10% or more of their income to a religious organization for years. Why are the majority of such people not enjoying the financial abundance that our teachers promised us? I started the research from the premise that the doctrine of tithing as popularly taught is basically sound. The fault must be something missing from our practice or understanding. I was surprised at what the Bible actually teaches. On the Tithing page you can have access to "The Tithe and Giving In The Body of Christ Today" document, which is the result of this research.

 

There are other questions, sometimes heart-rending questions asked by devout but hurting believers, such as "why do bad things happen to me (or others)?". "I live a godly life, why am I suffering?", "why don't I seem to have God's blessing on my life? What did I do wrong?". Closely related to these questions are the popular doctrines of prosperity which teach the believers to equate a godly life with material prosperity and health.

 

The teaching series "Godly Abundance and Prosperity" is available to answer such questions and to examine such popular doctrines. This teaching series also introduces, by teaching and by example, how the scriptures are handled in the teachings on this site. In addition, the subjects of self-condemnation, endurance, "prosperity", finances, prayer and the promises of God are handled in this teaching series.

 

I believe that the teachings mentioned here will answer a majority of the questions in the hearts of most devout Christians.

 

You can email any questions or comments directly to me at my address: keith@ksradcliffe.com

 
(C)2012 Keith S. Radcliffe